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The following account of the origins of the phrase ‘scrape an acquaintance’ was provided by journalist John Doran for Gentleman’s Magazine in March 1853. It appeared as part of an article on the Roman Emperor Hadrian, who ruled from 117 to 138, and who was responsible for the monumental wall that marked the Empire’s most northerly border, stretching from Newcastle to Carlisle. It would be best to treat Doran’s tale as a fable; but it’s a very good fable.

There is an anecdote connected with Hadrian and the custom of bathing, from which is derived the proverbial saying of scraping acquaintance: the Emperor, entering a bath, saw an old soldier scraping himself with a tile. He recognized the man as a former comrade — his memory on such points never failed him — and, pitying his condition that he had nothing better than a tile for a flesh-brush,⁠ he ordered the veteran to be presented with a considerable sum of money, and a costly set of bathing garments. Thereupon all the old soldiers of the imperial army became as anxious to claim fellowship with the Emperor as the Kirkpatricks of Great Britain and Ireland are proudly eager to establish kinship with the Empress of the French.⁠ As Hadrian entered the bath the day after that on which he had rewarded his former comrade, he observed dozens of old soldiers scraping themselves with tiles. He understood the intent, but wittily evaded it. Scrape one another, gentlemen, said he, you will not scrape acquaintance with me.

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A tile

As part of the bathing ritual, it was usual for a slave to apply olive oil, which was later scrubbed off with a curved metal tool called a strigil to remove dirt. The anecdote suggests that this veteran had neither a strigil nor a slave.

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Kirkpatrick

In January of the year in which Doran was writing, 1853, Spanish aristocrat Eugénie de Montijo married Napoleon III, Emperor of the French. Her maternal grandfather was William Kirkpatrick (1764–1837), a Scotsman who had emigrated to Malaga and served as US Consul. The clan Kirkpatrick, and just about anyone surnamed Kirkpatrick, was very proud of this connection to one of the great royal houses of Europe.

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